Love, Marriage, and Emotional Triggers

This year brings about some exciting things for me; one thing in particular I am STOKED about!! Something that me and my husband-to-be have been working on is couples pre-marital counseling to identify emotional past hurts and triggers that could spark issues later on down the road. I can honestly say I didn’t think I would have any problems based on my past. I was convinced that I had moved on from past emotional pains from toxic relationships but what I found out was that I had managed to do was just suppress all of that negativity. After much prayer, lots of support, and many tears, I experienced a freedom I haven’t felt before. Since that experience I have been thinking a lot about Love and Marriage not just in my own life but in the lives of those around me as well. I feel so light and bubbly whenever I think about what my coming marriage will bring and how the wedding itself will go. The more I think about it, the more I find myself taking a closer look at all the different languages of love and how it is expressed by different people. I hear couples argue and make up, I see small gestures that show appreciation, and I experience simple moments in my own relationship that remind me to treasure the little things in life. Love is not a concrete language, it is a complex and beautiful dance set to a beat that only the two dancers can understand. Staying in step with your partner is not always easy but with enough effort and practice, their dance can be timeless and unique.