Taking New Strides

I am currently trying to learn a new lesson, one that is exceptionally difficult for me because I am a bit of a strong-willed woman. Don’t get me wrong, I love taking things in and going with the flow, but there are some things that I am fairly immovable on; one thing in particular is respect. After working in the same job for 4 years, I have established my position and gained respect from those I have worked beside and gained loyalty and trust from. However, I have this one manager who has only been there for maybe 2 or 3 years and I clash explosively with. This manager is very big on respect as well and demands it from everyone; an attitude which I have been adapting myself and have so been acting on at work. Recently we had a rather heated argument about him not showing me respect of any kind. The way I saw the situation was that we were equals even though I am a lead manager and he is an assistant manager. Evidently I was mistaken and he informed me that I needed to earn his respect first. For almost a week now I have gone over the confrontation in my mind and tried to see the situation from all angles. Today I have arrived at a conclusion that is not easy for me to accept but it is a challenge I am willing to face and overcome; In order to be treated with the respect I desire, I must first swallow my pride and the notion that “I’m right and you’re wrong”. I must be patient and courteous, selfless and a better team player, and above all; respectful regardless of the situation. I have decided that I do not want to have confrontation with my teammates because then there will be a breakdown in our structure at work. I have made a promise to myself that I will work hard to earn his respect and he has agreed to speak softer to me in return. I feel great relief that this issue has a solution and I feel that every day brings me closer to my personal goals.

 

Food for thought.

Love, Marriage, and Emotional Triggers

This year brings about some exciting things for me; one thing in particular I am STOKED about!! Something that me and my husband-to-be have been working on is couples pre-marital counseling to identify emotional past hurts and triggers that could spark issues later on down the road. I can honestly say I didn’t think I would have any problems based on my past. I was convinced that I had moved on from past emotional pains from toxic relationships but what I found out was that I had managed to do was just suppress all of that negativity. After much prayer, lots of support, and many tears, I experienced a freedom I haven’t felt before. Since that experience I have been thinking a lot about Love and Marriage not just in my own life but in the lives of those around me as well. I feel so light and bubbly whenever I think about what my coming marriage will bring and how the wedding itself will go. The more I think about it, the more I find myself taking a closer look at all the different languages of love and how it is expressed by different people. I hear couples argue and make up, I see small gestures that show appreciation, and I experience simple moments in my own relationship that remind me to treasure the little things in life. Love is not a concrete language, it is a complex and beautiful dance set to a beat that only the two dancers can understand. Staying in step with your partner is not always easy but with enough effort and practice, their dance can be timeless and unique.